Oct 29, 2020
After losing his 19-year-old son Connor in 2018, Jonathon Aslay’s grief led him on a soul searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation. He realized that the process of dating reveals the most common emotional health issue faced by many singles seeking a partner, a distressing lack of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love.
The focus of America's leading midlife dating coach has expanded into a deeper essential philosophy of what it truly means to love. In today’s episode, he is going to discuss dating after divorce, but more importantly, how to bring your best self to the process.
“I thought you could plug exactly what you want and someone would magically appear.” [4:35]
“I leaned into a relationship and found myself so not ready.” [5:45]
“I was betraying myself this whole time. I was betraying who I was by not really discovering who I was as a sovereign soul person” [8:07]
“You know, healing is like peeling an onion. It's a continual process. For me, it's a daily practice.” [8:37]
“As any parent listening to this knows, our greatest fear, or, you know, for the worst nightmare is the idea of losing a child or losing our children.” [14:00]
“I want to say that the motivating factor is I know my son would never want me to suffer and to be stuck.” [17:49]
“What is the point of suffering? There is no point in it.” [19:20]
“Forgiveness is forgiving love, and then giving love to others.” [20:45]
“Whenever I'm feeling uneasy or when something is agitating me, I give myself love.” [21:46]
“It's good for you because being in love is actually how we shift into inner peace.” [24:13]
“I am tired of this and I'm going to choose my inner peace; it is the way I want to navigate life.” [32:12]