Jul 29, 2024
In this episode, we delve into Stage Three of the Five Stages
from Betrayal to Breakthrough. If you're unsure which stage you're
in, by the end of this episode, you'll have a clear understanding.
We cover:
The feelings, personas, and experiences typical of Stage
Three.
Why Stage Three is the most common stage where people get
stuck.
The consequences of staying in Stage Three and how to move
forward.
Key Points
Understanding Stage Three
Common Feelings and Experiences: Stage Three is characterized by
small self-benefits like being right, blaming others, and getting
sympathy without having to rebuild trust.
Negative Thought Patterns: The mind starts believing destructive
thoughts, leading to deeper entrenchment in Stage Three.
Energy Attraction: Like energy attracts like energy, resulting in
circumstances and relationships that confirm the negative
state.
Personas in Stage Three
Alex: Struggles with unanswered questions and the fear of
confronting raw emotions, leading to a loop of
indecision.
Jordan: Uses distractions like TV, food, and alcohol to avoid the
pain of betrayal.
Taylor: Experiences resignation, believing life will never get
better and settling into a colorless routine.
Morgan: Feels profound exhaustion and lethargy, unable to muster
the energy for significant change.
Symptoms and Consequences
Post Betrayal Syndrome: Symptoms appear in Stage Two and persist
into Stage Three, where they are often medicated and suppressed
rather than healed.
Therapy and Support Groups: Without true transformation, therapy
and support groups can become places where individuals stay stuck
by repeatedly rehashing their stories.
Numbing, Avoiding, Distracting: Common tactics to avoid dealing
with raw emotions, leading to long-term habits that reinforce the
Stage Three state.
Moving Beyond Stage Three
Recognizing the Trap: Understand that Stage Three is a trap,
likened to quicksand, making it one of the hardest stages to
leave.
Letting Go: To move to Stage Four, one must let go of the benefits
and familiarities of Stage Three.
Transformation Begins in Stage Four: Real healing and
transformation start in Stage Four, where new beginnings and true
growth occur.
Practical Steps and Resources
The PBT Institute: Offers daily live classes, programs,
masterclasses, and an incredibly supportive community to help you
move through the Stages.
Books: "Trust Again" and "From Hardened to Healed" provide deeper
insights and practical advice for those stuck in Stage
Three.
Community Support: Engage with others who are also on the journey
from betrayal to breakthrough, fostering mutual growth and
support.
Conclusion
Stage Three is a challenging but surmountable part of the betrayal
recovery process. By recognizing the signs, understanding the
personas, and utilizing the right resources, you can move forward
to Stage Four and beyond, achieving true transformation and
healing.
Connect with Us
Website: The PBT Institute
Books: Trust Again | From Hardened to Healed
Join us in the next episode as we continue exploring the stages and
providing insights to help you on your journey from betrayal to
breakthrough.