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398: Deep Restorative Sleep After Betrayal – Tips and Techniques

Dec 9, 2024

Introduction: 

  • Discusses the impact of betrayal on sleep, emphasizing how difficult it is to rest due to intrusive thoughts and images, especially at night. 

  • Highlights the importance of deep, restorative sleep for healing and recovery. 

Main Tips for Improving Sleep: 

  1. Acknowledge and Accept the Cause of Sleeplessness: 

  • Understand that betrayal is the root cause of your struggle. 

  • Acknowledge and honor your feelings instead of pushing them aside. 

  • Practice self-compassion, giving yourself the same care you would offer to a loved one in pain. 

  1. Create a Sleep Sanctuary: 

  • Declutter your space to create a peaceful, distraction-free environment. 

  • Ensure the room is dark, cool, and conducive to rest. 

  1. Breathe Through Stress: 

  • Practice deep breathing exercises, such as inhaling for four counts, holding for seven, and exhaling for eight. 

  • Breathing helps regulate the nervous system and encourages sleep. 

  1. Reclaim Your Nighttime Routine: 

  • Establish a calming routine that signals to your body it’s time to rest. 

  • Suggestions include drinking chamomile tea, taking a warm bath, using calming essential oils, or reading a soothing book. 

  1. Challenge and Reframe Negative Thoughts: 

  • Actively confront negative thoughts that may keep you up at night. 

  • Recognize that thoughts are not necessarily truths; reframe them with a positive or growth-oriented perspective. 

  1. Seek Support Wisely: 

  • Be selective about whom you speak with; not everyone will understand betrayal trauma. 

  • Seek professionals highly skilled in betrayal trauma to guide you effectively through the healing process. 

  1. Practice Self-Care and Compassion: 

  • Treat yourself with gentleness and understanding as you navigate the difficult process of healing from betrayal. 

  • Recognize that your emotions are valid responses to the trauma you’ve experienced. 

  1. Mindfulness, Meditation, and Journaling: 

  • Find mindfulness or meditation practices that suit you, such as guided meditations or music. 

  • Journaling can offer clarity and provide a space for reflection. 

  1. Limit Stimulants and Electronics Before Bed: 

  • Be mindful of your circadian rhythm and avoid stimulants like caffeine in the afternoon. 

  • Limit exposure to electronics and content that might trigger anxiety or stress. 

  1. Create a Positive Audio Environment: 

  • Consider listening to audiobooks or soothing messages before bed. 

  • Ensure the volume is high enough to drown out negative thoughts and provide a calming mental backdrop. 

Conclusion: 

  • Emphasizes that even small changes can lead to better sleep. 

  • Encourages listeners to try these tips, noting that deep, restorative sleep will aid in healing, clarity, and overall well-being. 

Final Note: 

  • More tips and resources for better sleep and healing from betrayal will be shared in upcoming sessions. 

 

Hope you find these show notes helpful and comprehensive! 

 

The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again.  

  • For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back.  

  • For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke.