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405: Letting Go to Create Space for the New

Jan 27, 2025

Episode Highlights: 

  • Welcome back to the podcast after a short hiatus! This first episode of the new year is packed with insights, inspiration, and actionable tips to help you heal, grow, and thrive. 

  • The focus of this episode: Letting go of what no longer serves you to create space for new possibilities in your life. 

Key Takeaways: 

  1. A Fresh Start for the New Year: 

  • January often brings "New Year, New You" messages, but real transformation starts with releasing what holds you back. 

  • Instead of adding more to your plate, reflect on what you can let go of—old beliefs, habits, or even physical clutter. 
     

  1. Forgive Yourself: 

  • If betrayal has left you blaming yourself ("How did I not see this?"), it’s time to give yourself grace. 

  • Betrayal isn’t your fault; you didn’t know how to think like someone deceptive. Let go of the guilt and self-criticism. 
     

  1. Reframing "Lost Time": 

  • Feeling stuck in Stage 3 (out of the 5 Stages from betrayal to breakthrough)? Don’t beat yourself up for what you didn’t know before. Celebrate the fact that you now have a proven roadmap to healing. 
     

  1. Letting Go of the Old: 

  • Start small and tangible: 

  • Clean out expired products, mismatched socks, or items you’ve outgrown. 

  • Physical decluttering creates mental and emotional space for something new. 

  • Let go of outdated beliefs like “I’ll never heal” or “I can’t trust again.” Replace them with believable "bridges" that move you toward new, empowering beliefs. 
     

  1. Rebuilding Trust: 

  • After betrayal, trust in yourself and others may feel shattered. 

  • Begin by trusting small, safe things: a beloved pet, nature, or someone close to you. 

  • Borrow belief from others if needed—trust in their vision of your healing until you can trust in yourself. 
     

  1. Create New Habits: 

  • Start with small, manageable steps: 

  • Drink more water by keeping a glass nearby. 

  • Walk a few times a week if exercise feels overwhelming. 

  • Call or text a friend daily to strengthen relationships. 

  • Small wins build confidence and momentum, inspiring you to take on more over time. 
     

  1. Embracing Change: 

  • Growth happens outside your comfort zone. Whether it’s small, incremental changes or bold moves like starting fresh in a new environment, embracing discomfort leads to transformation. 

  • Example: The host shares personal changes, like decluttering her closet, committing to staying in touch with friends, and implementing new business initiatives. 
     

  1. The Power of Incremental Transformation: 

  • Change doesn’t happen all at once. Slowly letting go of old patterns and integrating new habits leads to a complete transformation over time. 

  • Celebrate every step forward—each small victory is proof of your resilience. 
     

  1. You Are Capable of Healing: 

  • You may feel weighed down by trauma, but the person you’re meant to become is already within you. 

  • The host envisions you as the best version of yourself (Stage 4 or 5)—free from the pain, thriving, and fully healed. Use this vision as inspiration to keep moving forward. 

Final Thoughts: 

  • The journey from betrayal to breakthrough requires letting go of what no longer serves you—tangible items, outdated beliefs, or limiting habits—to create space for the new. 

  • Start small, build momentum, and trust in your ability to transform. 

  • Remember: Healing is possible, and you’re stronger than you know. 

Resources & Connect with Dr. Debi 

  • The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again. 

  • For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back. 

  • For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke.