Mar 3, 2025
In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of numbing, avoiding, and distracting—how to recognize when you're doing it, whether it's healthy or unhealthy, and what steps you can take to move forward. Inspired by a recent Coffee Chat session inside the PBT® (Post Betrayal Transformation®) Community, we explore the different ways people cope with painful emotions and why certain methods, even seemingly positive ones, might be keeping you stuck.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
✅ The three categories of numbing, avoiding, and distracting:
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Unhealthy ways (e.g., drinking, smoking, emotional eating, reckless behaviors)
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Neutral ways (e.g., binge-watching TV, scrolling social media, procrastination)
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Sneaky ‘healthy’ ways (e.g., overworking, excessive cleaning, obsessive fitness)
✅ How to
identify if you're using these behaviors to avoid
healing
✅ Four powerful
questions to ask yourself:
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Am I numbing, avoiding, or distracting? If so, how?
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What am I trying not to see?
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What will my life look like in 5-10 years if I keep this up?
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What could my life look like in 5-10 years if I change now?
✅ Why numbing makes it easier to get through the day but prevents real healing
✅ How suppressed emotions surface once you stop numbing—and what to do when they do
✅ How to handle overwhelming emotions at work and in daily life
✅ The importance of self-love in healing and why you deserve to overcome your betrayal for yourself—not just for others
Key Takeaways:
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Even positive habits (like working, fitness, or organizing) can be a distraction from true healing.
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Suppressed emotions don’t go away—they wait for you until you’re ready to deal with them.
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Healing requires facing, feeling, and processing emotions rather than numbing them.
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If you've overcome challenges in other areas of life, you already have proof that you can heal from betrayal too.
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You don’t have to do this alone—the right support and resources can make all the difference.
Resources & Next Steps:
💡 Want more support? Join us inside the PBT Community where you’ll find courses, coaching, and live Q&A Coffee Chats to help you heal. Visit ThePBTInstitute.com to learn more!
📌 Join Our
Programs:
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the betrayed to heal and rebuild.
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– For the
betrayer, to work through their own healing and
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🎧 Listen, reflect, and take action—because healing is possible, and you deserve it!