Nov 30, 2018
Dr. Sidney Cohen has 35 years of experience helping couples work through betrayals. Whether it is rebuilding or moving on, Dr. Sidney has seen it all when it comes to ways that both the betrayer and the betrayed can act. Today he is sharing his wealth of knowledge around the significant variables that can play a role in betrayal and healing.
By measuring the tolerableness of a betrayal, focusing on healing one day at a time and making a healing commitment to yourself, It is possible to get your pain to a more manageable level so that you can begin to heal. Learn why you can’t rush forgiveness, why self-comfort is important to mental health and what to do when you have no closure, plus more.
It is important to remember the courage and resilience that we all have inside of us. With the right tools, resources and a plan, you can bounce back from this betrayal and find healing and change. Let us know your thoughts about Dr. Sidney’s discussion in the comments section on the episode page!
In This Episode
- Common examples of betrayal Dr. Sidney comes across on a regular basis
- Essential things the betrayer needs to do in order to create healing
- Why the betrayed has the right to decide the length of time healing takes
- Getting past shame and embarrassment to find self-comfort
- The role psychotherapy can play in cases of betrayal
Quotes
“The definition that I use is any significant feeling of let down by someone or something important to you, based on what you believed you had the right to believe they would never do to you.” (1:42)
“If the betrayal feels tolerable to the person that has been betrayed, then I get a sense that there is room for healing.” (7:33)
“If the betrayer really means business about doing what they cant to create the healing that can allow the betrayed person to feel that they really can open up their hearts again, that's what it behooves the betrayer to do.” (13:41)
“Needs are human, and we are all human. However, in the face of still feeling the pain and the psychological torment of being betrayed, to give into those needs, while its human, it can also be something that the betrayed come to regret.” (22:24)
“As much as anything that the betrayed can gain out of therapy and the rest of the support they gain is a realization that they are still very much worthwhile, very much still loveable” (31:45)
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