Sep 30, 2024
In this powerful episode, Dr. Debi shares an insightful
conversation with a Transform member from The PBT Institute. They
discuss the common struggles many face after betrayal and the
subtle ways these challenges can prevent healing. Through this
discussion, Dr. Debi highlights the importance of not staying
stuck in the pain of betrayal but using it as a catalyst for
profound transformation.
Key Points:
The Subtlety of Stuckness: Betrayal can leave you feeling
blindsided and disoriented, with life divided into "before" and
"after." It's easy to get stuck in Stage three of
healing—constantly reviewing what happened without moving
forward.
Therapy Trauma: Well-meaning therapists can sometimes keep people
stuck if they don't fully understand betrayal or The Five Stages
from Betrayal to Breakthrough. Couples counseling can also be
challenging if the profound impact of betrayal isn't
recognized.
The Danger of Repetition: Constantly revisiting the betrayal story
without seeking growth can keep you trapped in negative emotions,
symptoms of post-betrayal syndrome, and a stage three
life.
Pattern Interrupts: To break free from repetitive thoughts and
behaviors, Dr. Debi suggests using "pattern interrupts," similar to
changing a physical habit like binge eating, to change the mental
patterns that keep you stuck.
The Power of Transformation: Moving from Stage three to Stage four
and beyond is about creating a new version of yourself—one that is
intentionally crafted and no longer defined by the
betrayal.
Tough Love and Growth: Dr. Debi offers support to those who are
stuck, encouraging them to embrace the opportunity to grow and
create a better story for themselves.
A Roadmap to Healing: The PBT Institute offers a proven roadmap and
community support to help individuals move through the stages of
healing and create a life beyond betrayal.
Takeaway: Betrayal can be one of the most painful experiences, but
it also holds the potential for incredible growth and
transformation. Don't waste your trauma by staying stuck in the
pain. Use it to create something beautiful in the next chapters of
your life.
Resources:
PBT Institute Institute: https://thepbtinstitute.com
Reclaim (for the betrayed):
https://thepbtinstitute.com/reclaim/
Rebuild (for the betrayer):
https://thepbtinstitute.com/rebuild-program/
Thanks for tuning in! If you're ready to move beyond your betrayal
story and create a new, empowered life, visit The PBT Institute to
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